Think about it: how many times in the past few weeks have you texted, bbm-ed, gchatted, or Facebooked plans with someone and you've thought, "well, I'll do this, unless something else comes up"? I bet at least once. Our parents never did things like this, they kept planners, date books, calendars and the like, and, more importantly, they kept their plans. Already this week I've blown off three things [just kidding, at least four...just thought of more] that I said I'd "probably" do (sorry to those of you who are a part of that...I swear its not personal)...and that brings up another point: half-assing your commitments to begin with! I am so guilty of this recently and I despise it. Let's elaborate:
Today, for example, I sent out roughly five text messages saying some variation of "hey girl!/hey buddy, whatcha up to tonight? Want to grab a drink later?" All recipients responded (I'm super likeable), a few with "sorry I can't tonight, but whats your schedule like for the rest of the week?", one with, "I have dinner plans but I'll call you at 8, otherwise let's do something later in the week", and one saying, "I'm seeing a show with some friends, want to meet us out after?". From those responses, I made plans for Wednesday night, but with the sidebar, "I should be free, but let's talk around 5", I made plans for Friday night, Sunday, and said that I was free Wednesday and Thursday night to one friend, and told another that I was free Thursday night. I never heard back from the "I'll call you at 8" and I blew off the "meet us after" follow-up text, even though it was a perfectly good invite. In fact, I did nothing with any of those people tonight.
Does this make me a bad person? No, seriously, I'm asking. Don't we all do this? At what point should we buckle down and stick to our engagements? Is it because of the nature of my career? (aka: I could get a call at any moment for an audition or a callback or a role) Or is it simply that we are all products of the ADD generation, the generation of people who are always thinking that someone/something better might come along, so we must be available for it? My vote is yes, yes to all of those questions, and as for when we should buckle down? As soon as possible. It does no good to wallow in our selfishness and "want-want-want" culture. Let's muster up the courage to commit to something once and awhile. Eating sushi with your ex-boyfriend's brother isn't going to be so bad.*
*Just kidding, yes it is...don't go!
What do you think about this? Comment away, I want to know what you're thinking.